One of the most pressing questions for newly broken-up couples seems to be “When, how, and why should I date after a breakup?  SHOULD I even date after a break up?”

These questions all make perfect sense.  It can be an extremely hard decision to make – especially when you have the conflict of not wanting to move on quite so fast because you are in love (and there may be a chance of getting back with your ex!), but wanting to ease the pain and not fall into a whirlpool of depression.

Well, I’m going to help make the decision a little easier for you, and address some of your fears along the way…

Should You Date After a Break Up?

It is usually a good idea to at least open your mind to the world of dating after a break up, even if your intention is to get back with your ex.  Even if on the inside your world is crashing and you are pining to get back with your ex, showing that you have it together and are getting on with your life (at least on the outside) only raises your perceived value with your ex.

Do I like playing games?  Not really, but at the same time, sometimes you have to play the cards you’ve been dealt. 

Don’t Date for These Reasons, Though

At the same time, there are reasons NOT to date immediately after a break up.  If you choose to date, make sure you’re going into it with the proper mindset.  You are dating to give yourself some immediate relief and remind yourself and your ex that you still have value.  You even get to hopefully have some fun experiences while you wait to get your ex back.

But you should NOT date for the sole purpose of making your ex jealous.  You should NOT date immediately to get into another relationship.  You should NOT do anything on a date that you or your ex will be upset about later down the line (remember, ultimately, you want to get back together!).  Usually, for most couples, that means no sex.

What Benefits can you Expect from Dating?

If you know exactly why you should date and what you’ll be getting in return, you can make a more informed decision.  So let’s talk about that.

Perhaps the main benefit is that dating provides almost immediate relief.  It will get you of your rut that you’ve been in since your breakup.  Breaking cycles is VERY important for feeling better. 

You will need to feel better to be in the right mindset to reclaim your lost love, so feeling better is as important as it gets.

I’ve already told you about the benefit of having more perceived value to your ex – but just to hammer the point home: this is a VERY powerful technique that’s not to be overlooked.

How to Find a Date

Okay, so you’re fired up, ready to take control of your life and start feeling better!  Good for you!

Now your next hurdle is actually FINDING a date…

And if you’re anything like me, this can be the hardest part, especially after being in a loving relationship for any amount of time.

You’re so used to being satisfied, that you’ve forgotten how to project your availability or ask others out.

Don’t worry.  Surprisingly, it’s not as hard as you might think to ‘get back in the game.’

In this technological age, finding a date online is quick, easy, and no longer taboo.  Regular people are doing it.  Plus, you’re dating for the sake of dating, so you don’t have to worry too much about the quality of the people you’re finding.  To you, still being in love, they probably won’t match up to your ex anyway (make sure not to tell them this!).

Things to Beware

Be careful of falling into the rebound relationship trap.  When on a date, use the mindset that this is the first and last time you will see this person.  Don’t project this outwards; be fair to your date and give them a pleasant experience.  Just be careful not to let your vulnerable state take the relationship somewhere it wouldn’t normally go.  Give yourself time.

But at the same time, keep an open mind.  Who knows, you may meet a great person who’s great for you.  They may or may not replace your ex.  The ultimate goal is your happiness; that’s what this is all about, right?

Remember, in these emotional times, your gut instinct is stronger than usual.  Don’t neglect it!

Capitalizing on your Efforts

After you’ve been dating, you can use some of the techniques on the website I’ll give you at the end of the article to get back in touch with your ex.  You are now in a very powerful position.  When your ex asks how you’ve been, make sure to *casually* mention that you’ve been meeting people.  Just don’t make any particular person seem too important, as to not ward off your ex before the reconciliation even begins. 

Most importantly, you need to have a plan for how to use your new strength to it’s advantage, or all this is pointless. 

If you start dating with no underlying strategy and talk to your ex without knowing how to mend things, you can do more DAMAGE than good if you do not handle it correctly.

That’s why it’s important to HAVE A PLAN.

You can find a step by step blueprint on how to get your ex back at the following site:

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I know you can do it!!