Before you decide to get advice on how to get your ex back, you need to make sure that you really understand your break up. Many people think that they understand their break up, but they don't. Allow me to explain.

When our ex no longer wants to be with us, they usually give us some kind of reason. Maybe you think you have a clear idea of what this reason is, because it was explicit.

On the other hand, perhaps you're feeling at least a little bit confused because the reason that your ex gave you for not wanting to be together was very vague. Maybe it was even a mixed message.

Take my advice -- you have to get to the bottom of the real reason that your ex no longer wants to be with you. And it's probably not what you're thinking.

The first step is to understand that no matter what your ex told you as to why they no longer want to be together, it all boils down to one thing -- the loss of respect and attraction. Think about this for a minute. What reason would your ex have to not want to be together that is more powerful than the forces of respect and attraction?

If you need proof, then just take a look at the fact that both men and women tend to stay in rotten, abusive, unhealthy relationships when they feel strongly enough about their partner. These aren't just insecure people like society would have you believe, either.

No, normally strong and independent men and women are powerless to the force of attraction. You are no different, and neither is your ex.

If you want to use a powerful, proven mechanism that is proven to make your ex want you, then focus your attention on rebuilding the attraction that was once there. Some people misunderstand me when I say this, because they think that attraction only has to do with how someone looks.

The fact is that attraction is much more complicated than that, and it is not a choice. It is mostly mental, actually. Sure, looks contribute, but it's the overall feeling that is most important. And you can influence that feeling with psychology.

Getting your ex back is easier than you think. You just need to start doing more things that build attraction, and stop doing things that kill attraction. That's the best advice on how to get your ex back that I can give you.

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